Making Blank
When speaking I draw a mental blank making boring or obvious conversation?
I have noticed that when I am with other people that I have a hard time communicating my thoughts using the right words or tone. I notice most of the time I am conscience about not having anything to say and I draw a blank. I don't have the words sitting right on my lips and it seems that when others speak that their words just roll off their tounges. I find it difficult to say what I want to say, even though English is my first language and I am in college taking Critical Thinking courses.
What could be the problem, I feel like a racing car engine with a bad transmission. I am very sharp and I have a good sized vocabulary. For some reason I can't seem to form thoughts to make meaningful or witty conversation.
How could I improve?
Can anxiety hamper your thought making process because I have some anxiety around new people or people that I feel I need to impress.
I often find that I am much more literate than I am fluent. When writing, I have time to think about what I'm going to say, and if I say something mean or stupid, there's always the ever-delightful back-space (although, I have to admit I sometimes don't realize I'm mean or stupid until after I've clicked "Send.")
The only thing that helped me was practice. Get into groups, don't worry about not saying anything, and just observe what people say to each other. Steal their lines when you go to the next group.
And it helps to figure out what the people you are going to be with will be talking about -- if they like music, brush up on what's popular. If they are sports fans, check out the sports pages before you head off for an evening.
Dorothy Parker's fiction often deals with the inanity of small talk -- but the thing is, people still often talk like this 70 years later! DP seems to hate small talk, but I think it's a nice skill to have. I'm still practicing (-:.
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